Would you keep your virginity for your future spouse in this modern age, where lust & temptations abound & leaves people asking for more; where incest & infidelity are so often ubiquitous?

Is it worth holding on to your virginity especially just for your future spouse, only to realize subsequently that He/She isn’t that special one that you really loved? By then, you could have missed out on sharing that special bond (if you so call it?) with your ex-partner(s), who could have been that special someone you have really loved, & could have taken you for that exhilarating ride of your life……

Recently I’ve been pondering over such thoughts. I wonder if it’s all right… Have actually thought about all these while growing up, but now that I’ve been to places & be exposed to the openness of our society, somehow, I can’t help but ponder over such issues. Sex. Lust. Love. The kind of connection among them that has evolved in our age has become so vague; yet intricately complex that one could possibly get lost in all these thoughts.

Having grown up in a catholic mission school with annual school missions to educate & reinforce upon us the values of our sexuality & identities, I must admit that I’ve pretty much gained insights from these programmes. And boy, am I thankful for that. From these lessons, I’ve learnt to protect myself & to reconcile the variances in different people; i.e., to embrace differences.

I’ve held strong values & placed strong emphasis on the sacredness of being chaste; for your Virginity is the most precious gift you can ever give to someone (you love). Love-making should never be seen as a commodity, should it…? It should still be what it originated as – The physical connection & non-verbal expression of Love between couples; Reproduction of Mankind; Creation of happiness (Children? Hahas), etc etc etc…

Not that I’m trying to preach or impose my thoughts on anybody, but all in all, the desecration of the sanctity of Love & Sex pretty much saddens me. At the rate things are going, the degradation of moral values should supposedly be something which we should be concerned about, especially with the well-known belief, “Men give Love for Sex; Women give Sex in exchange for Love”. Don’t you think? I wouldn’t know how true that is, but in this era, 9 out of 10 of the people that I come into contact with are probably “goners” (as my friend Kareen puts it)… How sad (but true)… But then again, who actually cares…? Do you?

On the other hand, I think I’m ok with this kinda behaviour/ culture. I mean, I can accept this among my friends (although I would probably be shocked initially if my close friends do tell me that they’re no longer a “v”?) & would probably find them intriguing. Hahas. Curiosity…