Com was down, so couldn't log in for eons. Goodness.

Was feeling rather displeased over the treatment i got over the weekends. Am not sure how guys really treat gurls, budden...

1. Brought to smoking-section
Jerica, being a non-smoker, is definitely not an advocate for alfresco-dining/ chilling-out, especially when the guy brings her to the SMOKING SECTION. Not as though the guy didn't ask if I smoke (he already knows I DON'T), I was still brought to be seated at the smoking section. As if that was not enough, two caucasians came after a while,and started puffing away, as though they had nv smoked their whole lives.

Jerica almost died. From all those 2nd-hand smoke.

Guys, if you're bringing a lady out for dinner/whatsoever, please ask if she minds to be seated in the smoking section. If he had asked if I minded, & I had replied yes, I wouldn't have been so pissed off. Because I should have said NO. But the worst thing was, he didn't ask. And that's the problem. Am pretty sure that isn't what a gentleman would do. TURNS ME OFF.


2. Kept really quiet throughout
Am not sure whether my friend was tired having just booked out from his GREEN SERVICE, or shy, or simply had nothing to chat about (then why do u ask me out for in the first place???), but I thought it was pretty awkward for me. Chatty (outspoken as I term it, haha.) by nature, I thought the silence maintained intermittently throughout made me feel really uncomfortable. Well, I HAVE NEVER HAD SUCH PROBLEMS. Until I went out with him on Sat. He was pretty much a deep thinker. Or. A silent thinker. So scary. Gosh. Guys, if you're bringing a lady out, do make sure you have thought of stuffs/topics to talk about, if you aren't apt at speaking impromptu.

Especially if you're bringing a lively lady out.

Especially if she is a Leo.

Oh yes, And please find out about the things she likes, and never attempt to talk ALIEN to her (read: things she doesn't know about), unless she initiates,or asks about them. Talk about topics she understands, or am interested in. Please.


3. Being LATE
All right, I admit I am personally a pretty impatient person, but I thought being late for first date is definitely not gonna leave a good impression? (SO QUIT TELLING ME THAT I'VE CHANGED SINCE MEETING UP, BECAUSE YOU WERE THE ONE WHO TARNISHED MY IMPRESSION OF YOU). And in any case, if he had apologised for being late (I don't remember he did), I don't reckon that i will be so pissed off. Gosh. It's like, he made me wait so long that I managed to attain level 8 of Tetris on my Sony Ericsson. Isn't that amazing? He arrived, looking half-dead, & DID NOT EVEN APOLOGISE.

Is that how a gentleman behaves?


4. Dunno-what-to say AKA speechless (literally)
When you meet up with a lady (to whom you had expressed you had a crush on) at around 7pm, do you take your own dinner first, or do you ask if she would dine with you? FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY WHOLE DATING LIFE, my date actually ate his fill before he came to meet me. How nice. So, Jerica was the poor rat starving while praying hard for the date to end soon, so that she can catch some nice food with her friends. Who were waiting for her (Thank you ladies, very much. =P )
I had never dated any guy who took his dinner before meeting up, so well. Sat was a real eye-opener for me.

Thanks alot for the lesson, boy. And, thanks but no thanks.

Guys, if you do ask a girl out, & you realise that u need to eat on ur own first (either bcos u worry abt paying for the meal, or are really so hungry that you hafta eat first), please have the courtesy to let the lady know, so that she will not starve in vain. No, not as though I was expecting to buy me a dinner, but I think it's plain courtesy to let your date (be they same/opposite sex) know whether you guys will be dining tgt, or not.

Rather than letting your date starve.


5. Super low Self-Esteem
This worry freak here has really, really, low self-esteem. It was as though he had failed all his life, and that he was worrying all day long. The other day when I was busy whipping cream for my cheese cake and didn't reply him for (i guess) 15 mins, he sent another msg, "Did I scare you off? If that's the case, then i'm gonna get u to erase what I've said (it was his confession of the lil' crush)." Alryte, I admit I was laughing at that tym, like, I felt important. However, another incident led me to conclude that this chap here is indeed a worry freak...
After meeting up on Sat, he msged me, saying "I think you're different from the past, after we met up.", when I thought I was still alryte. Well, if i were indeed different from before we met up, it was because you had painted such a wonderful picture of yourself in your SMSed to me, such that I suffered a rude shock from that date. (yea, that fateful date).

And, please. That was an accusation on your part. And I hate it. And such an accusation was a groundless one, without proof to back his finger-pointing.

Gosh.

Had told him countless times that "Looks probably do matter, but are superficial & are not the primary thing that matter", but he kept insisting on: "Nah. So looks do matter afterall," & continued casting his suspicions on me & my values, my beliefs assertedly.

Perhaps, for this, he can continue to assert. I mean, he can take his own stand. Or make his own point that looks do matter to him. But he shouldn't doubt me. I mean, if I make it a point to bother explaining to you, it proves something, isn't it? But come again, I don't gather I would even bother anymore, if he does such nonsense again.

Seriously, if he's just in need of some reassurance, I don't mind being there to listen. Or even, offer some confidence-booster. But, (I don't know if that's characteristic of a Leo,) I get pretty pissed off when nothing seems to go in (into his mind) after all the effort I made. Or even some appreciation. (Yes, I need to feel appreciated often.). This no doubt, kills my wanting-to-help-him anymore.


If only he knew how to make my day.