When we ask someone to change for the better… Do we really care for the person; is it really in the best interest of the person that we persuaded the person to change, or is it because we are so associated with the person that any action on his/ her part will directly/ indirectly have an impact on ourselves?

How much do you agree that “Human beings are innately selfish, self-centred creatures who are constantly on a look out for opportunities to their advantage”?

As the society mutates in this fast-paced, dog-eat-dog world, one could unlikely help but come to the realization that there is indeed an ugly side of us human beings. When you try to convince your loved ones that doing certain things are bad… Are you really concerned for their well-being? Or, are you merely afraid that what he/ she does will have an adverse impact on you (and essentially, YOU AND YOU ONLY) and your reputation?

Perhaps, it’s time for us to reflect. I admit I’m not perfect; and such a thought that sprung to my mind while talking to Ting Ting during work made me reflect… And questioned myself…

Was it really in her best interests when I hoped she would change for the better and kick those habits? Or, was it because she was someone so closely associated with me that I had hoped for her to change for the better, which boils down to the fact that I AM SELFISH?

Perhaps… there’s no answer. Or rather, there’re no black-and-whites pertaining to such an issue. Yes, maybe what’s there is only the murky grey that we may find ourselves trudging in.